The whole nation watched in wonder as this girl did a number on Chikini Chameli, a runaway Bollywood hit song. Only this time it wasn’t Katrina Kaif, it was a girl from Punjab, Shubh Kaur. A smiling, vibrant, and a beautiful girl who wanted to win the India’s got Talent. There was a catch, Karan Johar said how can this girl dance? She had only one leg and yet as the music started she did away with her crutches and danced her heart out to the song as we all watched with our mouths wide open.Shubh Kaur performance and judges comments in India’s Got Talent
It was a moment when we felt anything was possible. Here was a girl who inspite of her handicap was standing here competing and doing it so bravely with not an ounce of self pity. As Karan Johan rightly said after the dance, it made our trials and tribulations look trivial. What was even more inspiring was her family circumstances, without a father, her mother was a source of such strength. Johar went on to say that the strength the mother daughter duo brought to each others life, no man would be able to bring into their lives.
Who is Lucky?
Now I watched this with my four year old son. They lead such cushioned lives and have not had the opportunity to be introduced to the hardships of life. I thought it was a good opportunity for me to reiterate how lucky he is and teach him to be thankful.
I told him that people were doing such amazing things inspite of their handicap. I reminded him that we are so lucky to have everything in our lives. We have two hands, two legs, eyes, ears, good health, so on and so forth. My son replied, “ I think she is lucky”. Perplexed with his answer, I asked why he felt that way. To which he answered that Shubh Kaur had one leg while we all had two, implying that that she is different and therefore lucky.
Much like in the book “David and Goliath”, which talks about “desirable difficulties”, meaning some people get that extra drive to be achievers just because they have a serious handicap or disability. We however take our “normalness” for granted. My sons answer made me do a 180 degree turn. Sometimes our perceptions are so jaded. We still forget to look beyond the handicap, and in that sense we are limited by our own perceptions or handicap, even for people who inspire us. His answer reminded me that what we consider lucky need not necessarily mean we are and vice versa.
It is simply how we perceive ourselves and others and that is perhaps what differentiates a person with such tenacity from the ‘normal’ ones. While Shubh Kaur taught me how to overlook challenges and succeed, in his own way my son taught me to reconsider what I perceive as lucky and what is not.
No one is lucky or unlucky. It is perhaps, the best they make out of what is given to them and with a smile.